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		<title>Anger lives here&#8230;.</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Ged Johnson]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Apr 2017 13:16:52 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Hello my dears&#8230; I pray this sharing finds you well. My family is sleeping, the girls in their tent in our bedroom and Rob in our bed nearby. I cant go to sleep yet. I&#8217;m too worked up. There is an agitation in my body. It&#8217;s a nameless anger. Im not really sure why? When&#8230; </p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h5><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" class="alignleft wp-image-802" src="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/img_7193-768x1024.jpg" alt="Kate M Foster" width="510" height="680" srcset="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/img_7193-768x1024.jpg 768w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/img_7193-600x800.jpg 600w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/img_7193-225x300.jpg 225w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/img_7193-900x1200.jpg 900w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/img_7193-1280x1707.jpg 1280w" sizes="(max-width: 510px) 100vw, 510px" />Hello my dears&#8230; I pray this sharing finds you well.</h5>
<p>My family is sleeping, the girls in their tent in our bedroom and Rob in our bed nearby. I cant go to sleep yet. I&#8217;m too worked up. There is an agitation in my body. It&#8217;s a nameless anger. Im not really sure why? When I listen to it I understand it is an ancient anger, an anger long carried in my ancestors lineage, that generation by generation has been passed along to the next and the next. It belongs to no one yet all of us. I pray it ends with me.</p>
<p>I suppose right now at this time it has arisen to return to its rightful home. It is coursing through my veins. If I was to get intimate with it, roll in it, ferment in it, who knows what might happen. I understand it isn&#8217;t asking for this. I also clearly understand that I must not turn from it either. For me to live and for this anger to find it&#8217;s way to peace, to return to oneness once again, it must be listened too, respected, acknowledged and at the same time given safe healthy boundaries of how it is welcome to allow itself to be known.</p>
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<p>Sometimes when life asks me to step up my service to the world, old pockets of life also rise to be seen. Places where I am playing roles that not longer fit, roles that don&#8217;t serve me or the other humans involved. I guess now is one of those times.</p>
<p>When I was younger I honestly believed that anyone who truly served life and greatly benefited others had a picture perfect upbringing, deep loving connections with their family of origin (mother, father, siblings etc) and had their life fully sorted. You know the Disney movies kind of sorted! (Please be kind to me, I am prone to idealism).</p>
<p>Now in my 38th year I know this isn&#8217;t true, that while it may be possible, I am still yet to meet a human who truly embodies this Disney kind of reality. You see life is messy. Relationships are hard work. None of us have had the perfect conditions to grow yet each of us must do our best to keep blossoming where we are planted.</p>
<p>I am deeply thankful to my parents, both my biological parents and my dad who raised me. They have each offered as much love, generosity and support as they could. I honour and value all they have given yet I can never repay them in the same way. My role is different, I am their child. What I can do is pay it forward to my children and the world.</p>
<p>It sometime surprises me that I have my own family now, for a long time I don&#8217;t think i was fully here for my children, I was still immersed in my family of origin. Just as I witnessed my parents dancing with patterns from their families and stepping away from their childhood roles, I realise I am being asked to do the same.</p>
<p>It can never be the way it was when I was younger, life keeps moving on whether we want it to or not.</p>
<p>My relationship with my family of origin certainly isn&#8217;t perfect. The sobering reality is that I can not give them what they want and this is hard for everyone.</p>
<p>I understand now that if my love could have saved them from hardships or suffering it would have happened long ago. Maybe it was simply never my job to make it right for them? Each of us suffers and no one can ever know the truth of how or why. We each have an inner world so vast no other human could ever grasp it completely, it was ignorant of me to imagine I could be the one to save any of them. Regardless of how each of our lives look, I acknowledge we are all doing our best in this big beautiful messy dance.</p>
<p>I often say kindness looks many ways. Kindness can be counter intuitive. Being kind isn&#8217;t always saying yes, sometimes the most compassionate response is a clear discerning no.</p>
<p>The truth is my love for my family has not changed, however my boundaries have.</p>
<p>I am a grown up now. I have my own family. And while I honour my past none of us can live our lives backwards. We can only serve and support life here and now. People get to choose whether they want what we can offer. We also must listen and discern whether we can offer what they are asking for.</p>
<p>Finally I have given myself permission to be happy and enjoy today, with or without my families blessing.</p>
<p>You see I am allowed to be happy even if they are not. Not from a heartless inconsiderate place, rather a place of acknowledging we are all so intimately connected and woven together whether we choose to acknowledge it or not. We belong to each other whether we believe it or not.</p>
<p>The truth of life asks each of us to step into the kind of brave that may even be required to love from a distance for a chapter, maybe even a lifetime.</p>
<p>With this space my courage continues to grow. My trust in all the seasons a constant companion in my aloneness. I am filled with a deep sense of wonder for this peculiar curious life.</p>
<p>In my ever growing garden of gratitude there are more than enough flowers to share with everyone, however they may not be the flowers you are wanting?!</p>
<p>So even if you don&#8217;t want what I am offering I encourage you to value yourself, care deeply for your own precious heart, show up for yourself in the ways you long for life to care for you and maybe even create some boundaries.</p>
<p>Autumn is settling in and I am cold, sleep is closer now. I have written my way back to peace as I so often do. Thank goodness for this way to honour all the colours that I am. Writing is my forever friend until i no longer can.</p>
<p>Before I go please know I honour my family and all of your families too. They have given all they can and each of us are grownups now. I pray that all beings on this planet find a way to health, peace, happiness and purpose in this life&#8230; And as we are in the grownup business of asking for the things we would like, may I also request some lavish joy and celebration for all of us too.</p>
<p>Sleep sweet if you are on my side of the earth, enjoy your day if you are floating in sunshine.</p>
<p>All love and gratitude for the richness of this life, KMF<img decoding="async" class="aligncenter size-large wp-image-626" src="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/img_1206-medium-1024x683.jpg" alt="" width="790" height="527" srcset="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/img_1206-medium-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/img_1206-medium-600x400.jpg 600w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/img_1206-medium-300x200.jpg 300w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/img_1206-medium-768x512.jpg 768w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/img_1206-medium-900x600.jpg 900w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/img_1206-medium.jpg 1152w" sizes="(max-width: 790px) 100vw, 790px" /> xo</p>
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		<title>Dancing through the richness of life &#8211; A precious moment when my Nan was still alive&#8230;..</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Ged Johnson]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Feb 2017 00:57:02 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>This is how I like to remember her most, happy, free and letting the joy of life flow through her. The truth is her death was long and slow, yet in this picture she is free of that. She is free to dance, to sing, to play and to look at the beauty and gifts&#8230; </p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure id="attachment_1206" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-1206" style="width: 768px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><img decoding="async" class="wp-image-1206 size-large" src="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Nan-granny-pearl-and-pregnant-katie-dancing-768x1024.jpg" width="768" height="1024" srcset="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Nan-granny-pearl-and-pregnant-katie-dancing-768x1024.jpg 768w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Nan-granny-pearl-and-pregnant-katie-dancing-600x800.jpg 600w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Nan-granny-pearl-and-pregnant-katie-dancing-225x300.jpg 225w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Nan-granny-pearl-and-pregnant-katie-dancing.jpg 1536w" sizes="(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px" /><figcaption id="caption-attachment-1206" class="wp-caption-text">4 generations of women from my Maternal Lineage ~ My Nan, my Mum, my precious first born and if you look closely you will see I was carrying my precious second born deep in my belly. We were all here together, dancing our way through the richness xxoo</figcaption></figure>
<p>This is how I like to remember her most, happy, free and letting the joy of life flow through her. The truth is her death was long and slow, yet in this picture she is free of that. She is free to dance, to sing, to play and to look at the beauty and gifts her sacred sacrifice set forth on this earth.</p>
<p>I bow to her courage. I know my own heart through hers.</p>
<p>Norma Margaret, you paved the way for this moment. I love you forever.</p>
<p>I wish each of you reading this could taste and feel and smell the joy of this moment. I wish the love could permeate your whole being so you once again remember the truth of this life. Yet all I can do is find some frail words that shall never express the preciousness of this life nor this moment.</p>
<p>Our lineage is powerful. We take this breath because of the gifts and sacrifice of all who came before us. We stand as an offering of love. We exist simply as an embodied expression of truth, we exist to share and serve and bless all we encounter.</p>
<p>Wherever you find yourself in this moment, may you be blessed. May your gifts overflow to fill this whole wide world with peace and purpose, love and a gentle joy. May kindness be a salve that saturates your entire being and may it puddle at your feet, infecting the whole planet wherever you wander.</p>
<p>All love, KMF xo</p>
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		<title>Mother of the year Award</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Ged Johnson]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 08 Jan 2017 09:33:44 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Today was one of those humbling days where mother guilt and shame was an all consuming ocean. I think I took out one of the all time greatest prizes for the mother of the year award! I often share about the richness of navigating blended families. How it&#8217;s messy and hard and beautiful all at once.&#8230; </p>
<p>The post <a href="https://www.katemfoster.com/mother-year-award/">Mother of the year Award</a> appeared first on <a href="https://www.katemfoster.com">Kate M Foster</a>.</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-1162 size-large" src="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/We-are-doing-ok-xo-576x1024.png" width="576" height="1024" srcset="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/We-are-doing-ok-xo-576x1024.png 576w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/We-are-doing-ok-xo-600x1067.png 600w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/We-are-doing-ok-xo-169x300.png 169w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/We-are-doing-ok-xo.png 750w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 576px) 100vw, 576px" />Today was one of those humbling days where mother guilt and shame was an all consuming ocean. I think I took out one of the all time greatest prizes for the mother of the year award!</p>
<p>I often share about the richness of navigating blended families. How it&#8217;s messy and hard and beautiful all at once. And how even though I have the best intentions things sometimes go wrong. And today they did big time.</p>
<p>Our precious first born began flying alone last year. Up until that time her dad or Grandma had always collected her and flown with her. The decision to fly solo came from Pearl. She decided she could fly more often if she flew as an unaccompanied minor, the flying budget allowed for more trips, so a new chapter began.</p>
<p>I often say motherhood is one giant invitation to let go. Today was a fine example of that.</p>
<p>Each and every time Pearl flies alone I have to make friends with my greatest fears. One is that if the plane crashed she would not have anyone to hold her and love her as it went down, the other is that someone wouldn&#8217;t be there to meet her at the other end.</p>
<p>One of those fears came true today.</p>
<p>Through my own mistakes I had her arriving home at 1pm on the 11th January. We have been driving from Perth in WA constantly the past week to ensure we were home to meet her. We had made it as far as Gatton and this morning while we were out with Robs parents a text came through from Pearls dad saying she was on the plane safe and sound and all was well.</p>
<p>Lightning bolts of shock and horror&#8230;&#8230;.</p>
<p>All was not well in my world in that moment.</p>
<p>I was three hours from my baby who was due to arrive on the Sunshine Coast in one hour. I wouldn&#8217;t be there for her, no matter what strategies I came up with. Being kind to myself in the midst of that raging ocean of shame was no easy task.</p>
<p>I felt immense shame for my mistakes. Awe at how I actually confused things. Shame for letting her Pearl and her dad down. Shame at myself because if he or anyone else had done the same I would have gone off like a frog in a sock because my safety buttons were so triggered. I felt shame that he was being kind and helpful on the phone when my tolerance of someone else in the same situation would probably be non existent. It wasn&#8217;t a pretty or comfortable.  I was in a grand funk.</p>
<p>My first thought was to seek help. I rang a dear friend on the coast repeatedly until she answered. I told her of my predicament and asked her if she could get to the airport in an hour? She was on board in a heart beat. I rang Pearls dad back, he was still at the airport, they got a message through to Pearl on the plane that someone else was picking her up and we went through all the security processes of changing such things. It was time for a deep breath. Safety needs met. Shame waves free to unleash their full force. (It was more a tsunami!)</p>
<p>How do you be kind to yourself when you are in the midst of such an ocean.<br />
Prayer and one simple breath at a time is my only answer.</p>
<p>Bless my dear friend for her kind support. She video called me so I could greet Pearl as she landed. I apologised to her explaining how I had made a mistake and I was so very sorry I was not there to meet her. I showed my vulnerabilities. I told her how I missed her. (This trip was the longest we had ever been a part and I was stretched even before my crisis.)</p>
<p>Bless her heart, she told me it was ok, she loved me anyway and that she was so excited her best friend was there to pick her up.</p>
<p>I love the community we live in. I am eternally thankful for the kindness and support that exists. Today reminded me to keep trusting life, there is always someone willing to support and I was reminded it really does take a community to raise a child.</p>
<p>I bow to Pearls other family for their patience and compassion with me and my mistakes. I pray for humility to grow my tolerance and compassion to all.</p>
<p>Life is messy, hard and beautiful.</p>
<p>Lets be kind to ourselves even on the hard days. And lets be honest, I am pretty sure none of you have left your child in an airport and scheduled yourself to arrive 3 days later.</p>
<p>Bless us all!</p>
<p>All my love and frailties,</p>
<p>KMF xo</p>
<p>The post <a href="https://www.katemfoster.com/mother-year-award/">Mother of the year Award</a> appeared first on <a href="https://www.katemfoster.com">Kate M Foster</a>.</p>
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		<title>The messy shame filled beauty of families&#8230;</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Ged Johnson]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 07 Jan 2017 23:35:50 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Did you know my nan carried me in her womb too? The eggs that would one day grow me were already planted deep inside my mama before she was born. That means my nan held me tight and has influenced me in more ways than I can ever comprehend. It&#8217;s the same for you too.&#8230; </p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure id="attachment_1157" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-1157" style="width: 768px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-1157 size-large" src="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/My-lineage...-e1483830799627-768x1024.jpg" width="768" height="1024" srcset="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/My-lineage...-e1483830799627-768x1024.jpg 768w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/My-lineage...-e1483830799627-600x800.jpg 600w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/My-lineage...-e1483830799627-225x300.jpg 225w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/My-lineage...-e1483830799627.jpg 1512w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px" /><figcaption id="caption-attachment-1157" class="wp-caption-text">Introducing my Nan, my mum and their Galah</figcaption></figure>
<p>Did you know my nan carried me in her womb too? The eggs that would one day grow me were already planted deep inside my mama before she was born. That means my nan held me tight and has influenced me in more ways than I can ever comprehend. It&#8217;s the same for you too. Wild isn&#8217;t it!</p>
<p>Lineage is such a sacred powerful thing.</p>
<p>We are so much more than we could ever comprehend.</p>
<p>I love that. It also frightens me sometimes.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve begun writing my next book, it may take another two decades? Who knows? One thing I am celebrating is the strength of the women in my lineage. In writing their stories it feels like I am somehow setting them free. I love honouring their remarkable resilience, love and dedication to all of life. They are the roots that have given me wings.</p>
<p>Over this past year I&#8217;ve visited family in almost every state. Ive met nephews, aunts, uncles, sisters and even a Grandma that I never knew I had. It&#8217;s been powerful and profound and healing and sacred. Its been a celebration of the mess and shame and guilt that was long hidden. Its been a coming together of all the fragments that were floating around me never quite knowing where they belonged. I love my lineage. All of it. The light, the dark and the shadows in between. I love the tenderness of shame, the brutality of guilt, I even love the fragility of my messy imperfect self.</p>
<p>You see if I can make peace with the whole big mess that I am, I believe it is possible for everyone and that&#8217;s entirely what I plan to share in this memoir.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a book about how the holes make us holy. It is my biased account of the beauty, the richness and the sacred holy mess that is family life. I am that mess. Im glad for all of it. And no matter how shiny and sparkly any family looks we each carry the weight of shame, guilt and all that is left hidden.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s time to live.</p>
<p>How ever many days I have remaining on this planet are dedicated to love, kindness and truth above all else.</p>
<p>Are you brave enough to meet me here? To sit in the holes until you once again remember the unshakable holiness that never left your side?</p>
<p>With love from my heart,</p>
<p>KMF xo</p>
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		<title>&#8220;I know what dolphins are full of Mama, dolphins are full of magic&#8221; &#8211; Freya 5 years</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Ged Johnson]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Dec 2016 08:58:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>We live on an amazing planet. Miraculous wonders rest anywhere our eyes may glance. And at times I still get very involved with my thoughts and miss these wonders, I miss many precious moments of beauty and magic, moments that are right in front of me everyday inviting me to presence. That&#8217;s ok, my best&#8230; </p>
<p>The post <a href="https://www.katemfoster.com/know-dolphins-full-mama-dolphins-full-magic-freya-5-years/">&#8220;I know what dolphins are full of Mama, dolphins are full of magic&#8221; &#8211; Freya 5 years</a> appeared first on <a href="https://www.katemfoster.com">Kate M Foster</a>.</p>
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<p>We live on an amazing planet. Miraculous wonders rest anywhere our eyes may glance. And at times I still get very involved with my thoughts and miss these wonders, I miss many precious moments of beauty and magic, moments that are right in front of me everyday inviting me to presence. That&#8217;s ok, my best changes.</p>
<p>During our stay at Monkey Mia we were very fortunate to be chosen to meet the dolphins, however what I want to share with you is an experience I had while waiting at the edge of the water, in a great big line with everyone else.</p>
<p>In the 15 minutes or so that the dolphins were swimming up and down the shore line, taking in all the humans and awaiting their tiny morsel of fish, they would often stop, roll onto their sides and somehow &#8216;absorb&#8217; or &#8216;take in&#8217; the human in front of them.</p>
<p>For as long as I can remember I have wanted to interact and experience the wonder of dolphins. There was one time I was swimming in the ocean and they appeared. I was alone and pretrified, I didn&#8217;t actually have the presence to know they were dolphins. Fins appeared, I thought they were sharks and  I almost pulled a Jesus and walked across the surface of the water to get back to the beach.</p>
<p>Over my life I have heard many wonderful stories about dolphins. About ten years ago, while at the beach, a young indigenous boy was rammed by a shark. Miraculously dolphins appeared and 4 of them swam circles around him while he swam back to shore. They ensured his safety. They somehow knew. Something beyond words exists in their presence and for me this day was testament to miracles.</p>
<p>I learnt while at Monkey Mia that the part of their brains that empathises and relates to others is the largest of any species on the planet. Apparently they also see in sonar, which means they can see through our beings like an Xray.</p>
<p>While i was standing on that shoreline, learning about their lives and daily ways, one of these dolphins stopped in front of me, rolled onto her side and locked eyes with me. Im not sure exactly what happened, I&#8217;m certainly not into shiny spiritual experiences, yet there was a wave of something that pulsed through my whole being when her eyes locked with mine. Time stood still and i was immersed in an intense sensation of love in my whole being. My eyes leaked as I was immersed in her presence.</p>
<p>And in that ocean of love that pulsed between us somehow I understood that she was made of the same love and wonder that makes the whole universe spin,</p>
<p>and i was too.</p>
<p>Little moments change us. Im not sure how. I simply wanted to share this experience with you and offer it for the benefit of all.</p>
<p>May the peace and love and wonder of this miraculous creature find its way to your heart today.</p>
<p>With love and kindness, KMF xo</p>
<p>The post <a href="https://www.katemfoster.com/know-dolphins-full-mama-dolphins-full-magic-freya-5-years/">&#8220;I know what dolphins are full of Mama, dolphins are full of magic&#8221; &#8211; Freya 5 years</a> appeared first on <a href="https://www.katemfoster.com">Kate M Foster</a>.</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Nov 2016 07:53:07 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>This week i wrote to a woman who inspires me greatly. A woman who is my reference point for the divine, for sanity, for service. After the words landed on the page i realised it was possible all of us may like to read a few of them. They were shared in the context that&#8230; </p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p dir="ltr">This week i wrote to a woman who inspires me greatly. A woman who is my reference point for the divine, for sanity, for service.</p>
<p dir="ltr">After the words landed on the page i realised it was possible all of us may like to read a few of them. They were shared in the context that somehow, in our own unique ways, we are all juggling life. We all dance with how to live a life deeply connected to those we love while also balancing our contributions and purpose&#8230;&#8230;.<img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-1066 size-full" src="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Lake-of-calm.jpeg" alt="lake-of-calm" width="960" height="960" srcset="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Lake-of-calm.jpeg 960w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Lake-of-calm-300x300.jpeg 300w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Lake-of-calm-100x100.jpeg 100w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Lake-of-calm-600x600.jpeg 600w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Lake-of-calm-150x150.jpeg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px" /></p>
<p dir="ltr">&#8220;Spaciousness seems to be a common dance for the feminine, our empathic loving hearts yearn to be of service to all. It&#8217;s the hours in our human days that seem the challenge. In a conversation i once shared with a buddhist nun i told her that to me, she always felt like a lake of calm. Her response offered a giggle and a sense of hope for my own life. She said most days a part of her actually felt like a duck on that lake of calm. While on the surface she was serene and gracious, under the water her little legs were paddling full steam.&#8221;</p>
<p dir="ltr">More times than not my little legs are also paddling, diligently swimming and surrendering the best i can so i too may retain a sense of balance. I look out into the world and see amazing women that inspire me, that seem to have some super human power of &#8216;having it all together&#8217;, and i remind myself, its possible, just like me, that they too have days their little legs are frantically working to keep life afloat and in balance.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Each of us are doing our best. Lets slow the paddle and enjoy the lake of calm whenever the chance arises. Enjoy your week beautiful people.</p>
<p dir="ltr">With love and kindness from my heart, KMF xo</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Nov 2016 14:08:00 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>&#160; This past week i have been reflecting on the kindness of others. I have been inundated with snail mail, cooked meals, warm conversations, friendly smiles and my husband even returned home with some wildflowers. My life is immeasurably blessed. And these blessings got me reflecting on the moments that have impacted or changed my life&#8230; </p>
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<p>This past week i have been reflecting on the kindness of others. I have been inundated with snail mail, cooked meals, warm conversations, friendly smiles and my husband even returned home with some wildflowers. My life is immeasurably blessed. And these blessings got me reflecting on the moments that have impacted or changed my life the most. And every single one of these moments have been where others chose to bring kindness, to show up and share generously their time, words or service.</p>
<p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-1061 size-large" src="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/kindness-1024x1024.jpg" alt="kindness" width="790" height="790" srcset="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/kindness-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/kindness-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/kindness-100x100.jpg 100w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/kindness-600x600.jpg 600w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/kindness-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/kindness.jpg 1500w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 790px) 100vw, 790px" /></p>
<p>Blessing others has a funny way of rubbing off on all involved.</p>
<p>Its not every week I get inundated with external worldly blessings like i mentioned above. Life has many seasons. Regardless of how it looks, i rest in the beauty of my life, i love it entirely and i intend to share this joy with the whole world if they want it!</p>
<p>In the everyday rhythm of living i focus on what my mama taught me when i was little. If you want kindness, you have to bring it. (This applies to most things: Happiness, love, peace etc). We need to embody what we yearn for most. We need to be the person we wish was there for us. We need to share the kindness we may love to receive, offer the support we know buoys and nourishes our life.</p>
<p>Because in some strange way it doesn&#8217;t matter which way kindness is flowing, the simple fact is that when someone brings it, the likely hood is that &#8216;kindness&#8217; will find a way to infect almost everyone nearby. Even if i witness random strangers being blessed by others, i feel warm and fuzzy and grateful.</p>
<p>Have a beautiful week brave hearts. Keep sharing what you yearn for most. Planetary happiness really does depend on each of us. Now more than ever its important to remember we are the ones we have been waiting for!! Get gifting your gifts! The time is now.</p>
<p>With love and kindness from my heart, xo.</p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Aug 2016 00:01:52 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Meet Clare. This is the beautiful woman I share my mothering role with. In our house we lovingly call her our other mother. We have both written this blog together with the intention of supporting other blended families to have faith and courage while navigating the richness that is Blended Bliss. Read on and gain&#8230; </p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Meet Clare. This is the beautiful woman I share my mothering role with. In our house we lovingly call her our other mother. We have both written this blog together with the intention of supporting other blended families to have faith and courage while navigating the richness that is Blended Bliss.</p>
<p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignnone wp-image-920" src="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/image-240x300.jpeg" alt="Kate M Foster" width="450" height="562" srcset="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/image-240x300.jpeg 240w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/image-600x750.jpeg 600w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/image.jpeg 750w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 450px) 100vw, 450px" /></p>
<p>Read on and gain insight into our hearts and the daily choices we face to show up real for the benefit of others, especially when we are afraid.</p>
<p>Kate&#8217;s words:<br />
Our family is a blended one. When Rob and I got together I had already birthed my precious firstborn, it was the three of us right from the start. It must have been hard for him? To be honest I don&#8217;t really understand the kind of love and courage step parents bring. I&#8217;ve never been in that position, I can only imagine it&#8217;s richer and more challenging than I&#8217;ll ever truly fathom or comprehend.</p>
<p>In my life I am blessed with the honour of watching two phenomenal humans step parent their way to divinity. I look on with awe, deep gratitude and often bewilderment with how they manage to navigate the complexities of our lives with such grace, kindness and willing hearts. Pearl&#8217;s biological dad is the same. His kindness, patience and compassion are a gift to all that know him.</p>
<p>Is it easy? Of course not. Do we all get scared? I&#8217;m guessing absolutely, I know I do. Are we stretched beyond any known comfort zone? Entirely. And alongside all this richness we all show up real, communicate to the best of our ability and do our unending inner work, the kind required to navigate any relationship, regardless of its makeup.</p>
<p>Rob is my husband, Pearl&#8217;s stepdad and father to Freya my precious second born. When we got together he made a very clear intention of doing all he could to support Pearls relationship with her dad. He often shares that while he can never offer her what Danny can, his willingness to love and support her is unending. He has done everything in his ability to care, support, provide and love her, as does her dad. Pearl often tells people &#8220;I have two dads, one&#8217;s a Christian, one&#8217;s a Buddhist, and I&#8217;m not either&#8221;. It&#8217;s a grand stunning conversation starter with grown ups (and highly entertaining to witness as an inconspicuous bystander).</p>
<p>The truth is I was petrified when Danny and I separated. I didn&#8217;t know how I would ever be able to hand my child over to another woman. I spent a lot of time praying and leaning into my heart about who he may choose to re-partner with. In my scared moments I would remind myself of his truest heart, his kindness and that there was some divine order in this great colossal mess. Other times I would just cry and feel broken, afraid, responsible for ruining my daughters life. I had a lot to let go of. I prayed hard for a kind heartful woman. I prayed hard for wisdom to know the way.</p>
<p>The day I met Clare I new my prayers had been answered. My first thoughts about her were &#8220;I could be friends with this woman&#8221;, I really liked her. Apart from her great taste in fashion (she was wearing the same green dress I had) she was kind and clear and open. She showed up. She made the effort to meet me and actually share her vulnerability. I decided right then this blended family thing could work.</p>
<p>I thought about how much courage she must have to love a man who already had a child and I decided that it was time to trust. I was way out of my depth. Trust was my only option.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not sure how she navigated the richness of it all to show up real, yet she did, time and time again. I think the day I really realised she was my child&#8217;s other mother was the day she called me to see if it was ok to take Pearl to church. For the first time I truly understood the beauty of her heart. And the gift I had received in mothering alongside her. I was no longer alone, I had a strong, faithful woman showing up with such deep respect that I no longer had to fear for my child. It broke my heart open again to realise I don&#8217;t carry the responsibility alone. We share the role. The little woman, the daughter we share is growing more beautiful and diverse and understanding because of us. She has two faith filled passionate powerful women guiding her to listen, reflect and grow her own way. She has shade trees to rest under. She is ok. More than ok. She is thriving. I imagine one day we will all stand together as women, equals, silently resting into the rich beautiful tapestry that is life.</p>
<p>Clare and I have spoken about writing a book together. A book sharing our inner hearts and challenges and how we navigate this rich arena of life. I kind of imagine it like a map for fellow travellers. And even though we are all travelling in slightly different directions I&#8217;m pretty sure we are all carrying luggage of some kind. Clare came up with the idea of calling it Blended Bliss. I think it&#8217;s a great title and an opportunity for us to expand and share our definition of Bliss. Not just surviving blended families, actually thriving and growing in our capacity to forgive, love and serve.</p>
<p>You see sometimes we whittle bliss down to some neatly packaged euphoric state of sublime divinity. And we get the idea that life is supposed to look this way, neat and shiny, unendingly. Or scarier still we get the idea that blended families are meant to be hell, hard and full of suffering. The truth is our experience is so much more than either of these. You see Blended Bliss is the whole shebang. It&#8217;s not either/or, its everything and more. And with permission to get real and honest and connected to big picture long term intentions I believe any family, blended or not can navigate their way to wholesome connection and purpose.</p>
<p>Stay tuned. We are dreaming on how to contribute our experiences. Remember you are not alone and while your family will look different to ours, when we show up with open vulnerable hearts, we bring peace where there could be war. We change the world.</p>
<p>Clare&#8217;s Words:<br />
In the beginning little did I know&#8230;&#8230; that one of the biggest lessons in life was just about to hit me.<br />
I used to pray for my future husband, praying for the typical things, like a man of God, intelligent, funny and creative. I&#8217;m thankful I got all of those things. Dan would often say that God doesn&#8217;t always give you what you want, but what you need.</p>
<p>When I first met Dan, he told me pretty early on that he had a daughter from another relationship, I was surprised but went with it, little did I know what that really meant. In the haze of starting a new relationship, I almost took the information in like other stats, like how many brothers and sisters he had.</p>
<p>Dan had such passion for his daughter and it was so beautiful to see how much he loved her.</p>
<p>The first time I met Pearl&#8230;..</p>
<p>The week before, Dan had been saying to come along to a family dinner. I would get to meet his whole family and daughter for the first time, we had been dating for about 3 months. All week he had been saying to come along and when he cancelled the next day, I could tell he was nervous. I was nervous too.</p>
<p>I was brought up in the Methodist church, always volunteering and helping out in kids clubs. Children would often flock to me and therefore I felt pretty confident that Dan&#8217;s daughter and I would get along.</p>
<p>When this beautiful little soul was introduced to me, she looked at me with concern and weariness, hugging Dan&#8217;s leg. I thought, it&#8217;s daunting for a child to meet new people, it will change, or so I thought. This continued for the next year, my heart was broken.</p>
<p>This is where your vulnerability kicks in. On your journey as a step mother you present your love, you hope for acceptance, but you are not guaranteed an outcome. Rejection comes often.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a matter of always offering your love, open hearted and open handed. There is a fearful part of me that wants self preservation, wants to guard my heart but the other part of me knows I just need to keep giving my love to Pearl.</p>
<p>Meeting Katie and Rob I was so nervous, I thought about how hard it must be for Katie, leaving your child into the care of others, especially with me and what I represented as &#8216;the other mother&#8217; but Katie spoke with such gentleness and this allowed our vulnerabilities and insecurities to breathe. I felt truly comfortable. I am sure this wasn&#8217;t easy for Katie of which I am truly grateful.</p>
<p>Being a step mother is the hardest thing I have ever done. It leaves me raw and exposed in ways I have never felt before. And in this, there is also true beauty and a refiners fire. A beautiful life doesn&#8217;t come without cost.</p>
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<p>In closing, together we offer these words:</p>
<p>When women support women and families support families, miracles happen. Stay brave people, together we&#8217;ve got this.</p>
<p>With love and kindness</p>
<p>Clare and Kate xo</p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jul 2016 13:54:51 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>This is my favourite cup. I love it for so many reasons. It was handmade. It&#8217;s happy. It was squeezed in the middle before it was fired so it feels just right in your hand. It&#8217;s the perfect size. I never finish a full cup of tea in any other mug. It fits conveniently inside&#8230; </p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is my favourite cup. I love it for so many reasons. It was handmade. It&#8217;s happy. It was squeezed in the middle before it was fired so it feels just right in your hand. It&#8217;s the perfect size. I never finish a full cup of tea in any other mug. It fits conveniently inside my beloveds mug (important in a caravan with limited space). And it&#8217;s broken. A particularly rough country road shook our cupboards all over. It broke clean in half.</p>
<p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="aligncenter wp-image-911" src="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/image-1024x768.jpeg" alt="image" width="800" height="600" srcset="https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/image-1024x768.jpeg 1024w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/image-600x450.jpeg 600w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/image-300x225.jpeg 300w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/image-900x675.jpeg 900w, https://www.katemfoster.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/image-1280x960.jpeg 1280w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px" /></p>
<p>Look closely at this picture. It explains love. I was sad when I found my broken cup. Tea is a ritual in our home. I have treasured every tea I&#8217;ve had in it. I wasn&#8217;t ready to let it go. Almost defiantly I left the broken remnants on the bench to contemplate the next step&#8230;</p>
<p>I busied myself with cleaning and errands. Miss four interrupted asking for tape. I contemplated saying no as I was busy and it felt inconvenient yet I took a deep breath and rummaged through my Tetris caravan cupboards to find it. 10 or 15 minutes later I enquired what she was doing with the scissors and tape and with big joyful eyes she smiled and presented me with my cup. It&#8217;s all fixed mama. Bless her heart, it was completely sticky taped together. Even the gaping hole in the bottom had tape clumsily hanging over it.</p>
<p>The whole world opened to me in that moment and I remembered the truth of life.</p>
<p>Our innocents hearts are the same.</p>
<p>Eternally loving, infinitely giving, courageously vulnerable, showing up to perform the impossible.</p>
<p>May we all be blessed with innocent hearts.</p>
<p>Love and kindness &#x2764;&#xfe0f;KMF</p>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Ged Johnson]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 30 May 2016 00:08:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>For as long as I can remember i&#8217;ve been in love with love. I&#8217;ve searched and questioned and yearned and wanted to understand it since I was a tiny girl. When I was four I came to the understanding that as you grew, if you let it, love would turn you into a big warm&#8230; </p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>For as long as I can remember i&#8217;ve been in love with love. I&#8217;ve searched and questioned and yearned and wanted to understand it since I was a tiny girl. When I was four I came to the understanding that as you grew, if you let it, love would turn you into a big warm hug. And if you didn&#8217;t let it in, you became a sharp corner no one wanted to bump into. Three decades on this insight still serves me well. The difference now is that i have had plenty of opportunities to make friends with my own sharp corners.</p>
<p>For countless years I searched for love, wanted to be loved, wanted to be cherished and all at the same time didn&#8217;t understand what vulnerability was required to actually become saturated with that juicy goodness.</p>
<p>The world in addition to the countless Disney movies I consumed taught me love was meant to feel good, if it didn&#8217;t feel good it wasn&#8217;t love. And love most definitely was an outside job. For love to be real it must come from someone or something outside my own shadow filled self. It must be profound, convenient and clearly labelled, these were the kinds of things that I believed made love real.</p>
<p>(For the record let me be clear here when i speak about love not always feeling good, I am in no way referring to any kind of violence. Violence, emotional, physical or any other kind is NEVER ok and absolutely NOT any part of love. It must not be tolerated, accepted or hidden. Ever. Ever.)</p>
<p>When I speak of the parts of love that don&#8217;t feel good what I am referring to is the willingness inside myself to move towards those aspects of myself I found and sometimes still find undesirable. You see it would have been highly convenient if the world or someone else could love those undesirable bits of me so i could feel good, accepted, valued, beautiful, enough. I wanted my worthiness to come from an external source.  An external person. An external thing. (Addiction lives here). And although sometimes love can be reflected back to us by something outside of ourselves, it is only ever a signpost back to the truth of what is already in existence inside of us. Love is an inside job, any other version rarely lasts long.</p>
<p>Some of my demands were for someone to love and cherish me the way I deserved. And the shit storm started there. Because when someone does love and support you so entirely and you still feel unworthy, you have the opportunity to turn and face the truth, to run or to suffer. There is no where else to hide. If every external demand you have made has been met and you are still not happy, its time to face the music. The internal music. The song that never ends.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s what i call the hot seat. This hot seat is the invitation you have been waiting for your whole life. It&#8217;s your deepest yearning to get real and honest and messy so you can make friends with your own internal chaos. But more about that in my upcoming book.</p>
<p>What I can share with you now is this.</p>
<p>By turning towards all that petrified me about myself, by finding the courage to sit and make friends with my yucky icky undesirable shame filled bits, this divine man appeared in my life. And when he appeared I turned towards myself, and him.</p>
<p>He showed up and I let him in. In doing so I stood far beyond any confines of comfort I had ever known in my life. It hasn&#8217;t changed.</p>
<p>I vulnerably love with all my being and at the same time i know it is 100 percent guaranteed one of us will leave the other. That happens to everyone we know and love. We leave each other. We all eventually have to farewell this life. Our time is finite.</p>
<p>So when he pulls over in the car and wanders off into a paddock I wait. I sit, I weave and reflect. And when he appears back at the side of the car with these in his hands love leaks out my eyes. I see him. I love. I let that love in. It breaks me. And in my sacred brokenness my light floods out and touches the world.</p>
<p>My heart is willing to make friends with my sharp corners and from there I can be that big warm hug the world is desperate for.</p>
<p>I show up,</p>
<p>In love and service,</p>
<p>K xoxo</p>
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